Dear Matt Thiessen,
I am not your core audience. I’m probably not the guy you’re targeting when you make an album. I’m 36, I’ve a wife and a kid, and I live in England. Most people think of Relient K as a band for teenagers, semi-angsty Christian kids–people like that.
And perhaps you started out that way. You were, after all, only in high school when your band first started performing. And your first sort of breakthrough album featured songs about cell phones and mood rings. Teenager stuff.
But I hadn’t heard you at that point, aside from one track on a 5 Minute Walk sampler.
Then I went back to being a high school teacher, and dang if my kids didn’t love them some Relient K. I’m a music junkie, and I like using music to connect and relate, so one year, just before going on a trip with some students to New York City, I bought your newest album. It was on sale, I figured I’d like it some and be able to make some connections with some kids through that.
That album was the Five Score and Seven Years Ago album. It was pretty good. I digested small bits of it on the plane ride and on the subways.
Then, while exploring the Natural History museum by myself–all the kids had scattered throughout the building–I decided to finish off the album. And in this one hall where the fake Easter Island statue is (like the one in Night at the Museum), “Deathbed” came on. Clocking in at 11 minutes, the song is a 1st person account of a man’s life story as he lies on his deathbed and encounters Jesus. And it is amazing, musically, lyrically, emotionally. Your vocal performance on that song is powerful, and the instrumentation complements each section beautifully. I was hooked.
Next came the Christmas album, which fights Sufjan Stevens every Christmas for prominence in my CD player. It’s so good, and “I Celebrate the Day” gets me every time I hear it. It’s the one Christmas song I continue to listen to throughout the year.
So, wow, I thought, I kind of like these Relient K guys. So I went back, got the aforementioned record with “Mood Rings” on it. And, well….it’s okay. Clearly you’ve grown in many ways. Then I bought, again on sale, the cleverly named collection The Birds and The B-Sides, including The Nashville Tennis EP. Listened to it a few times, put it on the shelf.
A year goes by. Christmas 2009 hits. The Christmas album is on constant rotation. New Years comes along, and I feel bad for keeping it in, but I’m still in this Relient K mood, so I decide to play the Birds album until I know it well enough to make a better call on it.
And then I can’t stop listening to it. It is, particularly the first half, brilliant. It is a new style for the band. Much of the pop punk is gone, replaced by acoustic and alternative songs with all mixture of influences and melodies.
Well, Matt, you ask, what of our new album? What of Forget and Not Slow Down, the album of tracks you wrote while isolated in some cabin somewhere during the period of time after a broken engagement?
Well, did I mention I live in England? New music of the Christian-related variety isn’t always easy to come by, and when it is, it’s expensive. So I asked for the CD for Christmas. Could’ve downloaded, but with some bands I like the hard copy. And our Christmas presents didn’t come till mid-January, by which point the Birds album had been in constant rotation.
So it came. I listened to it. And I heard your suffering, your process of working through the pain of this broken engagement, the desire to understand and honour the other person in that equation while still being honest with all the feelings and confusion.
It’s nearly a masterpiece. I hope you continue to top yourself, Matt, but if you retire with this as your best album, you’ve done more than many bands. Out of your suffering came some art. Rob Bell would be proud.
I know it’s new for you and a lot of your old fans may have a hard time adjusting. But you’re not a teenager anymore, and this album shows a maturity and depth. It’s got the best lyrics you’ve ever written. And I read about the production, how you, for the first time, weren’t using electronic tricks like loops–everything is recorded in a very organic way, and it shows on the album’s sound.
Granted, it takes a little while to get going. As you know, since you recorded the album, there are really only 10 songs here, even though there are 15 tracks. The extra five belong mostly to outros, usually slowing down the previous song or expanding on its theme. And none of these are stinkers–no fillers. This is a lean album.
That being said, most of the strongest tunes are in the latter half. The first two songs are very good, but not great–the title track, and “I Don’t Need a Soul”, both fitting nicely into your pop-punk repertoire. I’m not sure if you meant the double entendre in that latter title, but it had never occurred to me that there are two possible meanings to that phrase until I heard this song.
Then comes “Candlelight.” Doesn’t sound much like anything you’ve done before. It’s very bouncy–the guitars feel….the only word I can think of is jangly, which isn’t even a word. It’s not a dance track per se, but never before has a Relient K song made me want to dance. There is a slight undercurrent of bitterness to the song, though the lyrics seem to be positive. Well done. Great tune.
After that we get “Part of It”, with the guitar and bass taking turns backing up the verses. Another strong but not great song, but I like the line “if the nightmare ever does unfold, perspective is a lovely hand to hold.” Helpful thoughts for the heartbroken.
Then comes “Therapy.” Stylistically, there isn’t a ton new in this song, but man, what a song. Not too surprised it made the concert rounds during the winter tour. It, in many ways, sums up what this whole album is about–it’s therapy for you. There is a raw and painful honesty in your vocal performance here, Matt–I think this song is coming from your gut, especially the line, “This is just therapy, cause you won’t take my calls and that means God’s the only one that’s left here listening.”
“Over It” sounds like something from the Nashville EP or even the Christmas album. It’s vaguely like a ballad, or a piano based pop song, maybe like you’re channeling Ben Folds for a bit. Not my favourite on the album, but not a bad song–as I said, there aren’t any bad songs here.
And from here until the end it’s all gold, starting with “Sahara”, a haunting, heavy-hitting rocker. And I love the “Oasis” outro that ends it. That’s followed by “Savannah”. I’m not sure what that intro is played on–it could be just an acoustic guitar, but I wouldn’t be shocked to find out it was a cello or some other stringed instrument. Similar in style to “Candlelight,” this is a “roll down the window and cruise the interstate” song. Everything here works–the lyrics, the melody, the arrangement. Strong drumming exploring a range of sounds. Love, love, love this song.
The “Baby” outro is bittersweet. Makes me tear up a little…
Then comes “If You Believe Me,” which blends so well with the last song, the double track “This is the End (If You Want It)”. The intro feels like you’re coming to some sort of conclusion to this whole chapter of your life…you’re beginning to sum up what you want to say to your ex-fiance. You are exposing your heart at the same time as giving her credit and freedom to be herself. ”If you believe me, we could stand the test of time like no one else/ If you believe me, it means you have to disbelieve yourself.” I have been in that exact place, Matt. Really. I have. February 1997. Through…most of the rest of 1997. Ultimately, she believed herself instead of me. This is an amazing track.
And it’s followed by that double-tracked closer, which is probably the best song you’ve ever written, and the best singing you’ve ever done. The thrashing, relentless guitar over the first half, the haunting piano undergirding the same melody on the 2nd half. The lyrics. When I listen to this song, I feel like I’m holding my breath all the way through, until the last lines are song and you–whether in experience or by faith–have overcome and come home.
Matt, I’m not entirely sure who this album is for besides yourself. Maybe for other jilted lovers trying to come to terms. Almost nothing in it applies to my life as it is right now. But still, you’ve gotten under my skin with a work of heart and a work of art exploring the suffering you’ve experienced over this past year. It ends with a note of hard-earned hope.
Thank you. My thoughts are with you. Thanks for sharing your pain and your journey with us.
I don’t know that you’ll ever read this, but in the aforementioned 1997 incident, weeks after the relationship came crashing down I ran into my pastor. My pastor is a very driven, very spiritual man–very in touch with God and a man responsible for ministries all over the world. So I expected something really profound from him when he asked me about the end of this relationship. He put his hand on my shoulder, looked at me, and said, “Time heals all wounds, if you let it.” And that was it. And he was right.
God bless. Can’t wait for the next album.

Best Random Indie Album I am Surprised I Own: The Decemberists–Hazards of Love–This is the biggest surprise on my list, simply because I had heard the Decemberists before, including this entire album performed live on the NPR podcast from sxsw, and hadn’t really gotten into it much.
Best Album That Would Probably Have Been on Here No Matter What, Knowing Me: U2–No Line on the Horizon
Best Rap Album With a Hit Single that Deserves to go Viral But Never Will: Rootbeer EP
Best Compilation “Dark Was the Night”
Body Piercing Saved My Life, by Andrew Beaujon, a reporter for music magazine Spin, is a fascinating read for any music fan.
What I Wanted to Say at Staff Meeting
February 5, 2009 · 1 Comment
I’m a pretty good public speaker, I think–when I’ve planned. If I have notes in front of me, I love it up there. Teaching suited me really well, and I’ve loved the chance I’ve had to preach overseas or at my home church in Vermont.
Spontaneous speaking? Speaking when I haven’t really prepared? Not so much.
Ira and I shared at Antioch’s staff meeting yesterday, and I had a lot going on in my heart that I wanted to say that did not come out. Not that I was unclear or spoke badly…it just wasn’t what I wanted to say. So I’m going to try here. Of course, this will be a bit longer than had I actually prepared, because there’s no time limit. Anyway, here goes.
1. I love being part of this group of people, this movement. There’s no other people I’d want to be doing missions with. We are a bit against grain–out on the support trail, as we tore through my aunt’s many Southern Baptist contacts in rural Kentucky, I would explain and explain Antioch and talk about what it was and how much I loved it, and still no one seemed to grasp it. The only question I would be asked is, “So…you’re not a part of the IMB?”
But so much of what others would describe as unusual I now find normal. I love love love that I can walk into that office and say, “I’ve been to 19 countries, most of them for missions” and most of the people would respond, “Nineteen? That’s all.”
I love our movement because we are a diverse and random group of people unified by a common Love and a common mission. The love of God has healed us, though we didn’t deserve it, and we’ve tasted what life is like when you follow His adventures for you. And nothing else will do. In the “natural”, we probably wouldn’t all click or stick together. But we are a band of brothers and sisters, and all gifts are present. Leaders, artists, servants, apostles, prophets…all there. Mixed through all of us. And so you get this great tapestry of different expressions of the heart of God, and I love it.
I love it also because I trust without question the people I work with, and the people who lead us.
We all know Jimmy & Laura are exactly who they seem to be. But I want to just say that if you needed proof, look no further than their kids. (You know how Paul instructed Timothy on the qualifications of an elder? Sometimes I think we use it as a checklist: “Should Bob be an elder? Well, let’s look. Husband of one wife, check, doesn’t get drunk, check.” But instead, I think Paul was describing the kind of person to look for. You find someone living like that–there’s your elder.)
Anyway, their kids are the fruit of their consistent love and discipline. I taught Abby & Lauren the past couple of years at TCA, and I saw them, particularly Abby, dragged through the fire and shine like gold. There was one day when Carl came to speak at chapel. (I love Carl. He is an anointed and challenging speaker. And “Otherness” still makes me cry every time I hear it. ”But I refuse to be caught up in the midst of small stories that seem to be brilliant at the time but soon become faded glory…” My flesh runs to those stories, but my heart soars to the Real Story and this helps me remember that. Thanks Carl.)
Anyway, Carl spoke, and he challenged the upperclassmen in a major way to help build community at the school by reaching out and breaking through the clique walls and befriending someone other than the people you hang with every day. And he gave them a specific call–that day, at lunch, sit with someone you don’t usually eat with. Get to know them. He asked everyone to do that. And it was powerful.
Now, lunch was one period later. I go into the cafeteria, really expecting, since it was so powerful, to see everyone mixed around.
Nope. Only one person. Abby. Sitting with a group of freshmen girls, trying to enter their world. Everyone else is in their usual spots, and you can see them kind of guiltily eyeing Abby out of the corner of their eyes. Abby, who stood like a lone deeply-rooted tree against storm after storm at that school.
The fruit of lives well-lived. Thanks for being who you are, Jimmy & Laura.
And the same can be said of Kevin & Stacy, of Danny & Kathy, Jeff & Dorothy. They are who they seem to be. They don’t lead and talk one way and live another. They’re the real deal.
I love our movement because of the way we worship. World Mandate this year was incredible, and I think that we have the best worship leaders in the country. It helped us in a major way get our hearts ready again for Sheffield. World Mandate was so good for us this year, as it happened just weeks before departure. After Saturday morning’s spoken word thing–the “They said China…but God said…” piece that Vincent was in–Ira and I looked at each other with fire in our eyes. ”We’re ready,” we said almost simultaneously. ”Let’s go.”
We are thrilled and honored to be going to Sheffield. We both realize that there is nothing good in us to help anyone over there. But we started this support process nine months ago, and God has spoken to us over and over and over again some very big things. There have been running themes to the words we’ve gotten, and with humility we go over there expecting miracles.
I want to take a second to say how proud I am of my amazing wife. She really did not want to be called to England, but after it became clear two years ago through all these divine things happening to her, she made a pledge to not speak negatively about the place we were called, and she has honored that. And it has been fun to watch her slowly go from reluctance to acceptance to vision and excitement.
It is amazing that we serve a God who can take such foolish and broken people and use those people to rock the world. And we are asking God to use us. We have faith that we are going to bring joy to the team there, we have faith that we are going to see lives transformed, and that as we go, God will speak so clearly to us that it is as if we hear Him as audibly as Ira heard Him when He first told her about Sheffield. We are vessels, and though we don’t have a ton of close relationships within this staff, we are so glad we are a part of this particular army at this particular time.
We’re going to Sheffield. We have hope in our hearts, and we want to bring that hope and abundant life to a people who have decided there’s nothing to believe in. Wait till they see what God is going to do.
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